I need to begin this post by acknowledging and appreciating the fact that there are men who are really doing amazing things for and unto God. Men who spend days and nights building their relationships with their Maker, preaching God’s word, winning souls for Christ, setting examples in their generation, being the men they are called to be in their businesses, work places and even standing for God in their environments. Men of honour who stand to be counted everyday because of their refusal to engage in any form of ungodliness, deceit, lies, corruption, immorality, drunkenness and any other vice involved. I see you… I recognize your presence! God sees you and has set you apart for Himself. Do not tire in walking uprightly, God will honour that. This post, however, targets a different set of men. The kind of men Ernest Wamboye (the author and founder of Pen Strokes), a man I truly respect and look up to, spoke about in his Facebook post quite recently.
To whom it may concern…
Men are the symbol of strength and authority! Any depiction of a man is one who is strong, bold, courageous, full of valour and unyielding to any form of intimidation. I know godly women will agree with me that a man who lifts his hands in praise to God is much more attractive than a man who lifts weights in the gym. Don’t get me wrong, physical exercise is very important, but what is the point if you are just but a spiritual dwarf?
1 Timothy 4:8
For physical training is of some value, but godliness has value for all things, holding promise for both the present life and the life to come.
It is men who are expected to be at the forefront of every issue while women and children cheer them on. God expects it, society expects it and even the men constantly rise up to this call and purpose. But men have been handing over their authority to the Devil since Adam’s time and looking for excuses while blaming others for their failed endeavors. The truth is that men have become so blinded and trapped in the stronghold of the enemy that they have become comfortable and accepting of this. It is such a sad reality!
Men are natural born leaders. But how can a man lead in every capacity of their lives when they cannot even let God lead them? How can a man lead his life, his wife, his finances, his own body and every other responsibility designated to him when Christ is not even the authority? It saddens me, every time I hear about the rise and conquering of ‘sponsors’ or ‘sugar daddies’? Men are thriving and basking in the lie that they are ‘wired’ to turn their heads and lust after what does not belong to them. To be quite honest, it saddens me; no, it disgusts me when an older man who is clearly married with children hits on me or looks at me lustfully. It is quite disturbing! It is even more heart-breaking when I think about the pain the wife has to go through. This is a clear sign of a man who has failed to lead his wife and children, and he yields to the temptation to look outside his marriage. Such a shame!
This does not apply to married men alone, it is the single men who carry over this seed of lust and adultery from their single hood into marriage with no care in the world the ramifications it will have upon their future families. A ‘turner’ (a man who turns his head to look at a woman lustfully) in singlehood will be a ‘turner’ in marriage. A fornicator in singlehood will be an adulterer in marriage. Old habits die hard, and the only solution is when the power of God literally overwhelms a man upon his confession and literally silences any urge of immorality. I was having a conversation with a group of men who were telling me that they can’t help it, that they have to turn whenever a scantily dressed woman passes by them. Brother, it’s not that you cannot help it, it’s just that you have no control over your own eyes and body. Self-control is but a myth. Your eyes and body need a mighty wave of deliverance.
Real men lead their girlfriends to Jesus; not to their bedrooms! Real men choose to walk according to God’s word, not falling into temptation due to peer pressure. They pursue God, not lustful desires. How many young women will have to bear the ‘shame’ of pregnancy before marriage, raise your offspring or even abort your seed due to your negligence? How many more tears will a young woman shed because you abandoned her when she needed you the most? As I said earlier, your actions not only affect that young woman, but many generations after her. If she does decide to keep your child despite all the pressure and hardship, that young boy will grow into a young man who treats women the way you treated his mother. That young girl will turn into a woman who looks for fatherly love from dead-beat boyfriends who will end up using her and dumping her just as you did her mother. It’s a vicious cycle that you started and only God can put to death.
Men, oh men, we look up to you, but it is hard to do so when you beat up your wife. Your dignity and self-respect immediately disappears when you raise your hand to hit your woman. It is too shameful and embarrassing! But while all this is part of the Devil’s plan to destroy manhood, God is in the business of breaking down strongholds that tie down young men. Let’s admit it, most have failed, but only those open to God will be moulded into new creations. I can feel it, a vast army of men arising to take up their positions in the kingdom. Young men standing up against the Devil’s lies and standing firm on God’s word. You are a new generation of young men, called for service. A new breed of God’s chosen. Arise and heed to the calling!!!
Psalm 119:9
How can a young man keep his way pure? By keeping Your word.
Oh, and ladies, you are not safe either. I will be on your case on the next post. But until then…
Much love from me,
Mumbua 🙂
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It’s true that most men have become ignorant of their position as men! It really breaks my heart.
On behalf of men, I take responsibility for all the wrong doings.
I hereby with all humility wish to submit a sincere apology to all the ladies, (sisters, girlfriends, mothers, school mates, workmates and friends) for all our wrong doings.
Ladies, you are special people and I really honor you.
In summary:
A real man takes initiative, lives responsibly, loves faithfully, leads sacrificially and leaves a legacy.
A real man loves the real Man, Jesus Christ.
Thanks Mumbua for such an honest piece.
Wow… this is humbling and indeed accepted. Thank you so much for taking the time to read this post, it means a lot. God bless you so much
Wow wow wow
This is so true and thank you so much for taking your time to speak to us. God bless you.
It is only Jesus who makes a man real! Otherwise we will continue living in the lie, deception and corruption that happened when Adam sinned.
Many live to attain the standards set by fellow humans in the name of being gentlemen but the real man is Jesus and as long as we follow into His footsteps then we will automatically produce His nature.
This means to love one another to the point of laying down ones life for his friend.
It is only the love of God in Jesus that makes real men.
God bless you.
Wow, thank you so much for your wise words Elly, I concur with all that you have written. Thank you for taking the time to read this post. God bless you abundantly as well.
This is brilliant. Mumbua! A Revelation is starting. I will share this on the Pen Strokes page and the Boy Meets Girl Page.
Wow wow wow Ernest! This is definitely the highlight of my day. Once again thank you for taking the time to read this post. And it is so humbling that you will be sharing it as well. God bless you so much. Your ministry has been of great influence and inspiration to me. Thank you! 🙂
Amen! karibu! And sorry for the typo. I mean REVOLUTION. Not revelation
Wow, revelation actually still applies though, haha! I also re-read this post and realized I also had quite a number of typos. Thanks again. 🙂
True;real men leave their girlfriends to Jesus
Thank you so much for taking the time to read. It truly means a lot. God bless you so much
Awesome. Thanks so much and keep it up. Powerful insight
Oh my, now this is everything!!! Thank you so so much for taking the time to read this post. This means so much. I am so happy you find it insightful.
I am a young man looking forward to becoming a responsible husband and father in the future thanks alot for the insight it’s of great teaching
Thank you for reading Munene. God bless you!!!