A godly woman’s letter to her godly future husband…
Greetings my love,
I know this will find you well. Allow me to introduce myself. My name is Sarah Mumbua Kimeu. One day i will be your Mrs. We probably know each other, or haven’t even met yet. But one day we will be united, and there are a couple of things I need you to know.
I have been praying for you, for us, for our future children, our future careers, where we will stay. Basically, I talk to God about everything concerning us. You see, my love, I used to long for the day that you would run after me holding that ‘glass slipper’ that I left behind… and that you would traverse the land just to find me, your rib, your better half. But now that I am older, my whole mentality about marriage has completely changed. It is just so much more than a Cinderella fantasy.
Honey, if there is one institution that is under attack, it’s MARRIAGE. We are living at a time where people jump in and out of marriage whenever they please with no regrets or guilt. I agree that some are completely justifiable. But most people have given up on fighting for their union and thus give The Devil the opportunity to ruin the first ever relationship that God established between human beings. He knows that if he ruins that institution, he has ruined an entire generation. The core of every single family is the husband and wife’s union. If that is jeopardized, children are left with a twisted view of marriage and their perception of life is ruined. A generation is born looking for fathers and mothers in the wrong places. So why am I telling you about things that you probably already know? Well, I simply just need us to agree on something.
The moment we exchange vows, it’s going to be for a lifetime baby! Our decision to be one greatly affects our faith and the lives of our future children. God hates divorce! (Malachi 2:16) So why should we separate what God himself has put together? (Matthew 19:6) I do not want my future children to grow up with confusion and identity crisis yet we are well able to avoid the whole situation.
As we make the conscious decision to be one forever, we will also be signing ourselves up for the responsibility of providing for our future children physically, emotionally and spiritually. It’s a noble task that many have taken for granted. But, I do not want to. Marriage is a call to battle, a spiritual war of course. A war that we shall keep winning on our knees. And there is simply no way we can win the fight against marital attacks without putting Christ at the centre of our marriage. I know we will have our differences, but be completely aware that The Devil will try to use them against us. He is good at causing chaos, but we shall not go down without a fight. Our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the spiritual forces of evil. (Ephesians 6:13) We have got to pray!
One of the major causes of broken marriages is alcohol, drug and substance abuse. But do you know that wine is a mocker and beer a brawler? Whoever is led astray by them is not wise. It says so in Proverbs 20:1, not my words at all. Proverbs 23: 29-35: ‘Who has woe? Who has sorrow?…. Who has needless bruises? Who has bloodshot eyes? Those who linger over wine, who go to sample bowls of mixed wine. Do not gaze at wine… when it sparkles in the cup, when it goes down smoothly! In the end it bites like a snake, and poisons like a viper’. Honey, as King Lemuel’s mother told him in Proverbs 31: 4 fff, so I say to you;
It is not for kings… not for kings to drink wine, not for rulers to crave beer…. Give beer to those who are perishing, wine to those who are in anguish…
You are a king in my eyes, the ruler of my future household. May drunkenness never ever be your portion in Jesus’ name!
In a generation where sex is a ‘necessity’ in worldly relationships, can we just escape this vice? We are set apart from the world; we are the light and the salt of the earth. Let us become blameless and pure, children of God without fault in a crooked and depraved generation, in which we shine like stars in the universe. (Phil 2:14) Harsh words are used for any form of sexual impurity, Romans 1:24: ‘Therefore God gave them over in the sinful nature of their hearts to sexual impurity for the degrading of their bodies with one another’. May our courtship be that which pleases and honours God, reflecting holiness and purity in every aspect. The past does not mean anything, thanks to redemption. But our present and future shall continue to reflect God’s purpose in our lives.
Be aware of this chain; 1 Corinthians 11:3:
Now i want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.
Honey, you need to completely yield and submit to God as the man of the house. There is a pecking order that we need to follow. And I pray every single day that your relationship with Him shall grow daily. That way I know Our Father shall bless our future home. We shall be examples for our future children. The same goes for me, and that is why I am growing my relationship with God on a daily basis not only for my benefit, but for our future as well. I will gladly submit to you, I will gladly be your helper. Ephesians 5:22 tells me that wives should submit to their husbands as to The Lord. When that time comes, I will put my best foot forward, so help me God!
Darling, as I write all these things to you, I am writing them to myself as well. I want to be more godly and submissive to Him. I keep asking God to fix me up and help me get rid of those things that don’t please him. I have my weaknesses, and I know you do to. But love covers a multitude of sins. May our love for each other and God conquer all. I will just be here praying for you daily. I will go on my knees every day for you. When I choose you, I will not only choose my future partner, but I will be choosing the father of my future children. I will not only be choosing the man I love, but I will be choosing the man that will love me and my future children. I am in the prayer chamber for you. I know you are praying for me as well, for us, and our future. I pray you grow stronger and wiser as a man. I am not asking for perfection, I am just asking for a man after God’s own heart. I am also working on being the best Proverbs 31 woman I can be. For God’s glory, but for your benefit and that of our future children.
I look forward to being your wife. To being the mother of your children. To do this thing called life with you. To travel the world, to raise up our children in Christ. To fellowship with other believers and even witness each other’s growth. I love goofing around, so I hope you are not too uptight. I love laughing, and watching movies and series till late in the night with coffee and popcorn in hand. Can we do all this and so much more?
Honey I think about you, and I am praying for you and our future children. I look forward to changing my last name to yours. Until God officially unites us, I will just be waiting for you.
With lots of love,
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